Riffing On Realness™

Dealing with Exhaustion

Episode Summary

Many of us are experiencing periods of exhaustion just now. In this episode, we explore how we might innocently be exhausting ourselves because we are trying to keep our masks in place and what happens when we understand more about what's going on in our minds and how it impacts us. We point towards freedom, not just from exhaustion but from too much stress and anxiety also, that shows up more and more as we tune into deeper aspects of our experience.

Episode Notes

Here’s what we explored:

we can get so busy we miss the small miracles
urgency can become a habit. It is a state of mind
whatever state of mind you're in, that will be your experience
having all the time in the world is a state of mind. It's internal, not external
the possibility of feeling sped up but also peaceful
we need our ego to function but we don't need to overly identify with it
playing at the game of life is easier when we recognise it as a game
being amped up we can fear the crash which ironically feeds the crash
it is how we relate to our feeling states that determine how much we suffer
not being 9-5 people - not wasting judgement gives more freedom
excess judgement around e.g. traffic congestion adds to our exhaustion
what sort of world would it be if we met everyone with interested curiosity?
holding our masks in place is exhausting and leads to suffering and isolation
sometimes we put a lot on being seen as pleasant, calm, wise, kind
we can get uncomfortable with the parts of us that don't match up
we are far more than any of our traits
accepting our full messy, nuanced human-ness helps us drop the mask
If you're not accepted for who you are because of race, sexuality, religious beliefs or other factors, dropping the mask can look dangerous
as you peel away the masks you discover more of your True self
as we are more authentic we start to see others for who they really are
look to where you have influence, model the behaviour you want to see
the risk in speaking up, if you are white, is some emotional discomfort
if you are black or brown speaking up may risk physical and bodily harm
the primitive brain has 2 primary priorities: to keep us safe and conserve energy
finding excessive gentleness for ourselves helps us drop the masks
women can sometimes demand that men don't show vulnerability
men can demand that women be soft and gentle
neither allows the full experience of being human
violence is in othering - internally with parts of ourselves and toward others
there is something beyond our feeling states, something unchanging
getting more still, getting into your heart, relaxing psychologically
stop over-identifying with thoughts that are unhelpful
othering is about separation
our essence cannot be destroyed
we forget the grandeur of who we truly are and how we are all connected
let's be excessively gentle with ourselves
Sydney Banks talks of life being a contact sport
joy as a powerful act of activism

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Quote/sources

For one who is exhausted, a blessing, a poem by John O'Donohue

The Colby Index - measures how you prefer to get stuff done in the world

"Life is like any other contact sport. You may encounter hardships of one sort or another. Wise people find happiness not in the absence of such hardships but in their ability to understand them when they occur." ~ p.124 The Missing Link - Reflections on Philosophy and Spirit by Sydney Banks

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