Riffing On Realness™

Navigating the Unknown

Episode Summary

The truth is we are always operating in the unknown but we like to kid ourselves that's not the case. Maybe now that there are so many extreme things happening in the world: a pandemic, climate emergencies, political and social unrest as well as ongoing problems of poverty, oppression, disease, and conflict, maybe it is an opportunity to wake up to the fact we were never in control. We just lulled ourselves into the false sense of security that the illusion of control gave us. Take a listen for tips on navigating the unknown with more ease.

Episode Notes

Here’s what we explored:

has your day ever really gone to plan? Aren't interruptions the norm?
woman plans God laughs
Juliet shares her own sense of melancholy being separated from her partner
when we don't accept what is; we suffer
going through the feelings, being prepared to feel all the feels
if you fight what is, inner or outer, the resistance builds up and we suffer more
with so much uncertainty, it's as if we are all sitting on the edge of our seats
we've been turned upside down and for many of us there's no new normal yet
the illusion has been shattered. We were comfortable in that illusion
when the wave of overwhelm is heading my way we have a few options
stand against it and get flattened; dive under it, or ride the wave
we don't have to try to fight it you can go into the soft body of our human-ness
we can innocently let our stressful thinking build, like in a psychological thriller
we do this especially when we are uncomfortable with how we feel
when the mind clears, there's an opportunity for fresh thinking
you only have to deal with what's right in front of you, right now
when we drop our stories, we're able to move more easily through life
we get present all the time, but we just don't notice
here, now the two of us speaking, everything's fine, we're in a state of curiosity
social media gives us the stories that match our own
when you feel irritated, if you go on Facebook, you'll feel more irritated
a symptom of stress is a sense of urgency and not thinking clearly
we either go scatter gun and try to solve problems or withdraw and feel overwhelmed
Juliet says how she couldn't see how exhausting that was
she thought she was exhausted because of all the things she had to do
when you understand your feelings are real but what they are telling you is not, you can take them less seriously
we're not saying, we're okay because we don't have so-called challenges in our life
we're okay because there is something deeper and fresh thinking is always available
when our system floods with stress chemicals we have less clarity but those chemicals are meant to be released when we are ACTUALLY in danger
what happens is those chemicals get released when we IMAGINE danger
the birds don't have a commentary running about their circumstances
we can learn from the birds
Carla talks of a story in Mara Gleason's book, One Thought Changes Everything, wherein a holdup, all Mara's fear dropped away and she felt a feeling of expansive love rush in
we see the possibility of our stories dropping away at any moment
you can't think your way to a state of no thought
we drop out of our self-conscious thinking all the time, we just don't notice
when we are being and doing, we aren't thinking about ourselves
it is changes in our thoughts that change our experience not changes in our external world
the more we can take things off our mind, the easier it is to deal with the unknown
when we have lots on our mind, social media can just amplify that busy mind state
as we learn to ride the waves, we get really good at being flexible and find more ease
when you don't accept what is, you suffer
it doesn't mean being a doormat or acquiescing to being badly treated
if you don't like what's going on, change it or accept it as Eckhart Tolle says
when our minds run away with thoughts of fear and insecurity, we get exhausted
if we don't know what's going on we innocently add to the pressure with our thinking
our actions follow our thinking.
Carla gave an example of badly slicing her fingers when doing a task while exhausted
attending to letting our minds settle is the single most important thing we can do

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Quote/sources

One Thought Changes Everything, Mara Gleason

Dicken Bettinger - search YouTube for his videos

Eckhart Tolle - search YouTube for his videos

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Poet & 3 Principles facilitator, Juliet loves exploring and pointing towards freedom of mind for those curious to engage more fully with all aspects of their life.

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